Psychoanalysis is more than a form of therapy. It is a philosophy, an ethic, a way of thinking — one that lets a person reach a place of complete honesty with themselves. It is from there that inner conflicts begin to resolve. The work is closer to a jeweller's craft than to a quick fix: it isn't fast and it isn't easy, but with enough desire and persistence, something rare and entirely your own can come of it.
I work with adults, and my main instrument is language — above all, the language of the person who arrives with a question.
When I work with a couple, there are three languages in the room: his, hers, and the third one the two of them create between themselves. With international couples this is especially audible — behind every word stands not only a person but their culture, their history, the inheritance of their family line. My work is to help that third language find its voice, so that two people can hear each other even where it seemed they were speaking different tongues.
Most people come not when things become unbearable, but when they notice that what they spent their lives running from is somehow close again. The same kind of partner. The same argument in different words. The same feeling of not being heard — in a new room, with new people.
We tend to think this happens to us. More often, it is something we recreate without knowing it.
If you recognise yourself here — perhaps it's time to find the courage for a conversation.